DO YOU FEEL OBLIGATED TO GIVE SEXUAL GRATIFICATION AFTER A DATE?

SEX OR APPRECIATION?

Appreciation is the best gift you can give to a man; it's a lot better than meaningless sex. Mention all the positive characteristics about his advice, his help, the food, the restaurant, the place, the service, the flowers, etc., ignore the negative details. Appreciation inspires him to try harder and to auto correct his mistakes or shortcomings. Men strive to make women happy. When you appreciate him, he feels the desired to do more for you, and he is more attracted to you. Your gift is also the opportunity you gave him to make you happy and to be in your beautiful presence.

IS HE A MARRIAGE MATERIAL?

NOT RECENTLY DIVORCED MEN
Men are so emotionally needy after divorce, that they usually grab the first woman that crosses their path to use her as Kleenex (sexual object). Unfortunately for many women that have a relationship with recently divorce men, once the guys feel good again they get rid of them. Since, they are not able to see potential for a romantic partner on any woman until they heal. So, give them time to heal, and enjoy life with someone else.

SEX AND MORE SEX!

SEXUAL INTIMACY AND STD’S

In many countries, before you become sexual involved, usually before you get married, your partner and you need to provide each other with medical reports about the mental health history in your family and STD's.

Now many people become sexually involved before they even know the last name of the person they are having sex with. As a result, it had been reported the highest rates of STD’s ever registered affecting women. Females need to be extra cautious to protect their heath; if they don’t do it no one will do it for them. Women have to be more responsible and ask for this STD’s medical exam before they become sexually involved, whether he is your new boyfriend, or your future husband. If he is caring and responsible enough he won’t hesitate to be tested.

A GREAT WAY TO RELEASE YOUR SEXUAL ENERGY

Did you know that belly dance is an excellent way to release your sexual energy? If you don'have a caring, respecful, loving and understanding boyfriend or husband start practicing this amaizing dance. Your next romantic partner will be delighted to see you in action.

SIGNS THAT HE REALLY LIKES YOU

It is a reality that many men just look for casual sex, don’t confuse his interest to fuck with interest to pursue a romantic relationship. They are worlds apart. Allow him to develop emotional intimacy and feelings for you before you become sexually involved with him. When a guy is in love he wants to make the first love experience magical, special, and beautiful for you.  Lead the way by appreciating him; if he truly likes you he will wait and enjoy every second with you, the kisses, the hugs, the caressing, etc.  If he just wants easy sex, he will soon disappear.  If he wants to be your friend with benefits or he has other women, walk away from him because he has enormous love just for himself, and you are just one more of his conquests! Women are the jewels and men have to prove that they have what it takes to be the one for you before you even give them sexual gratification.

UNTOLD FACTS ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Many abusers after they realize that their partners are not going to accept physical mistreatment, they change their tactics and become emotional abusive. Most abusers never change they just keep switching tactics, it  never gets better. Women wanting to be the heroins and trying to help them ended up destroyed or victimized,Tina Turner lived 14 years of abuse and  it took her more than 8 years of therapy to recover. Whitney Houston experienced abuse  for almost 20 years and she was never able to help her abusive partner she just allowed him to drag her into the same hole with him. Check this facts and walk away if you have to: 

·          He may try to have two women at the same time and make them angry at each other so they spend energy fighting with each other, while he gets away with his infidelity. Real love has emotional intimacy, sex and commitment.

·          He may try to engage you in a committed relationship too soon

·          He may try to make you pregnant to easily abuse you 

·          He may be disapproving of all your activities

·          He may criticize you and put you down or be self-righteous

·          He may use great sex to keep you hooked into the abusive relationship.

·          He may use his relatives or new girlfriend as allies to harass you, if you had left him.

·          He may be depriving you of sleep at night with any excuse

·          If you had left him, he may use his relatives to get closer to you to re-establish you as his victim again and again.

 

·          A man that  was abusive towards his partner, it’s going to be abusive with all his romantic partners until he fully acknowledges that he has a problem and decides to change. Unfortunately, since batterers blame their victims for the abuse, they fail to take responsibility for their actions and most of them never change.

·          Abusive men lack compassion for women. They see women as inferior. And they are overly emotional dependent of women. No woman can fulfill their irrational emotional needs.

·          Abusive men become more violent when his partner threatens to leave him. So, don't give any warnings. Just leave when you can avoid confrontation.

·          Big changes in life also trigger their abusive behavior like pregnancies, a new job, or a new career that will keep his partner busier.

·          Most abusers just learn new abuse techniques in the court order mandated batterers programs; since, in most states they are ineffective.

·          Emotional abuse it’s hard to detect, but if there has been physical abuse the chances to happen are 99 percent; and it’s as harmful and destructive as physical abuse.

·          Abusers focus in making their victims to feel helpless. It never gets better. Run at the first sign to avoid years of misery and unhappiness.

·          As the abuser becomes more aggressive, he will become more dependent of drugs and alcohol and of course the abuse will be a lot more intense.

·          The only way to avoid abuse it’s to cut all contact with the abuser, many times you even have to end all contact with his family  or your family and friends since he will use them to get in contact with you.

CAN YOU HELP AN ABUSER TO BE A BETTER HUMAN BEING ?

Yes, by walking away from him. So, he realizes that he has a problem.
Tina Turner was physical abused for about 14 years, Whitney Houston was emotionally and physically abused for about 20 years or more, and they both wanted to help their husband Tina said “everybody had left him, I wanted to be there for him” Whitney said “he was my husband, I have to be there for him” These abusive men are adults, they are the only ones that can help themselves, no one else. These women allowed the abuser to victimize them, when trying to be their heroines. Don’t make the same mistake! You cannot help anyone but yourself, abusers, drug addicts, alcoholics and cheaters will drag you into the same dark hole that they are in.

A romantic partner is like a business investment, you don't invest in a company that has problems. Look for a healthy, peaceful and respectful man that adores you and shows you his love. If you are already in love but he doesn’t make you happy remember that it’s better to walk away at the beginning that after years of misery. It takes half of the time you were in a relationship to heal your heart, and forget about that person. So, the sooner you end an unhealthy relationship the sooner you will get over. It doesn’t matter if he was your first boyfriend, your first love and you know him since you were wearing pampers. Fact is, you were born alone and you have been happy that way for years. So, you will come back to your natural state and you will be yourself again, but definitely a lot emotionally stronger!