Many abusers after they realize that their partners are not going to accept physical mistreatment, they change their tactics and become emotional abusive. Most abusers never change they just keep switching tactics, it never gets better. Women wanting to be the heroins and trying to help them ended up destroyed or victimized,Tina Turner lived 14 years of abuse and it took her more than 8 years of therapy to recover. Whitney Houston experienced abuse for almost 20 years and she was never able to help her abusive partner she just allowed him to drag her into the same hole with him. Check this facts and walk away if you have to:
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He may try to have two women at the same time
and make them angry at each other so they spend energy fighting with each
other, while he gets away with his infidelity. Real love has emotional intimacy,
sex and commitment.
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He may try to engage you in a committed
relationship too soon
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He may try to make you pregnant to easily abuse
you
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He may be disapproving of all your activities
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He may criticize you and put you down or be
self-righteous
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He may use great sex to keep you hooked into the
abusive relationship.
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He may use his relatives or new girlfriend as
allies to harass you, if you had left him.
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He may be depriving you of sleep at night with
any excuse
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If you had left him, he may use his relatives to
get closer to you to re-establish you as his victim again and again.
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A man that was abusive towards his partner, it’s going to be abusive with all his
romantic partners until he fully acknowledges that he has a problem and decides
to change. Unfortunately, since batterers blame their victims for the abuse,
they fail to take responsibility for their actions and most of them never
change.
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Abusive men lack compassion for women. They see
women as inferior. And they are overly emotional dependent of women. No woman
can fulfill their irrational emotional needs.
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Abusive men become more violent when his partner
threatens to leave him. So, don't give any warnings. Just leave when you can avoid confrontation.
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Big changes in life also trigger their abusive
behavior like pregnancies, a new job, or a new career that will keep his
partner busier.
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Most abusers just learn new abuse techniques in
the court order mandated batterers programs; since, in most states they are
ineffective.
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Emotional abuse it’s hard to detect, but if
there has been physical abuse the chances to happen are 99 percent; and it’s as
harmful and destructive as physical abuse.
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Abusers focus in making their victims to feel
helpless. It never gets better. Run at the first sign to avoid years of misery
and unhappiness.
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As the abuser becomes more aggressive, he will
become more dependent of drugs and alcohol and of course the abuse will be a
lot more intense.
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The only way to avoid abuse it’s to cut all
contact with the abuser, many times you even have to end all contact with his
family or your family and friends since
he will use them to get in contact with you.
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